Bucket Lists For A Purpose

Who’s still talking about 2018 these days?

Hi, and welcome back to my site.

I’ll tell you my reasons for still continuing to talk about 2018 and the greatest new milestone I’ve reached to date.

It’s perfectly alright to reflect back on past years. But are you so busy in life, you can’t even recall everything that happened in the past year? Some days it’s hard to think back on what took place in 2018, because I’m busy with day to day activities in this new year. The only time to think about the past, is in the moment on those days.

When we think back, we view past memories whether they are happy moments or sad times. I would say my 2018 consisted of more happy memories than sad ones. Not to mention all the life milestones that happened for me alone.

As I’ve mentioned before I love lists.

Well, 2018 was no different and the new year was not about to escape from my pen and paper of becoming a new list.

I actually started my 2018 list the month before the new year. Turns out that my list became several sheets long. Front and back I’ll admit with much enthusiasm, too. However, this list was going to be different.

The list I created was something new I had never done before. For two main reasons mostly. One because I was entering into a new decade of age and second because it was a challenge list.  

I classify this list as a challenge because it was the first bucket list I’d ever thought to create. I’ve read a few samples over what the big deal was with having and creating a bucket list.

After some quick glances at so many forms and styles of bucket lists, I was rather bored with what I saw. Simply because my intention was completely different for creating one.

Vision boards, now those I enjoy very much putting together. So maybe I wasn’t as bored as I thought when I saw how passionately decorative people had created their buckets list. There is some masscreative boards out there.

Moving forward from talking arts and crafts in this post, I want to get back on topic with why I created a bucket list at this time.

Looking back, even at the pain

After many years of focus being an amazing mother and caring for my son twenty-four seven while dealing with our custody case, I decided to take a long look at myself. In the sense of my health and happiness.

I can easily say without a doubt, I was still glowing even after carrying my son for almost ten months, and as equally happy every day I spent with him after birth.

But who was seeing to my happiness and needs as a friend or partner?

I had many roles to play now being a single mom, that all my time and energy was just simply being ‘mom Cassie’ that I wasn’t focused on ‘free-and-independent-Cassie’.

Many parents who’ve gone through the process of divorce and custody, know to well the stresses and time taken away from yourself, to invest in everyone else. When is there time for you?

We do our best to avoid the ‘rat race’ of family court and attorneys juggling our cases, looking at making a decent living off of our broken hearts and one sided tales of who’s the favorite.

After a few years of not seeing much positive progress with family court for any type of defense, I had finally had enough. I told myself I allowing the race to continue by going right back, time and time again, when I could see the courts and attorneys making no effort to seek justice with me. So how was I to stop it all?

Your partner is the devil, and mine is a million Angels of God

When I found the strength to stop the madness, it was like new perspective hit again.

I took a moment to think about more than just how my son was being affected by the system.

How could I have not thought about my needs and happiness through all this? After all, my life was forever being changed too.

I had not had a moment to even digest the divorce fully, let alone be bombarded with court abuse too. It was time to heal and I needed to find myself again.

I spent a few years facing those moments of replaying past memories, past choices, and focused on what I wanted different moving forward.

It had been awhile since I’ve had time to sit alone and write. Most days my writing tools were with paint and crayons on colored paper with my son.

Let’s make use of the paper and create a list

The bucket list of 2018 was made in December before the new year. Remember, this list was for turning a new age and moving forward in life the way I wanted, now that I no longer had to seek approval for my dreams from a spouse.

How was I go to make myself happy and what was it I wanted to accomplish now as a divorce person?

Surely my life isn’t over and I certainly have the option to remarry. But it was as if I had another chance to start life again before that option comes again.

What was I considering starting over again? I had attained a bachelor’s degree prior to getting married, but I had not started on my career. It was a new state, new relatiosnhip, so starting out was completely fresh at the time. The hopes were to continue on the path of starting a career while married, but clearly the destructive marriage had other plans for my passions with culinary.

Knowing that I wanted career opportunities to be on my bucket list, not all the items had to be so serious and focused on work. These ideas and questions, certainly helped to form my list.

Setting aside time to write the 2018 list, I was feeling pretty good inside. Thoughts were once again being put to paper.

The following year was going to be centered around my happiness for once. As we often hear, ‘only you can make yourself happy’ is certainly true. People fail at making us happy, no matter what area of life you’re directing it toward. It’s just the human emotion driving some individuals and our perspective of wanted behavior received.

Taking happiness into my own hands again, I tried to focus on creating similar bucket list as the ones I searched for. Ones that had fun and exciting adventures on them.

Let me tell you, this list was pretty hard for a serious person such as myself to create. But eventually, I got the swing of things and realized I had turned the page to write the next to-do item down.

Oh dear…

Reading over my list so far, I immediately got overwhelmed trying to think of how I’d accomplish what I had so far. I took a moment to think…

I’m heading into a new decade, so why not stretch it over the next ten years?

And then the plan was set. I continued writing out my list, page after page.

Let the planning begin

When 2018 came, I made a post about my New Year’s resolution of taking charge of my happiness and nothing and no one, were going to stop that from happening.

Unlike most people who make a couple resolution’s, in fear of not accomplishing them for one reason or another, I continued to make posts that I was on track. Many of us tend to forget the resolution or not even try.

I have some unbelievable will power, and made good use of it when it came time for my yearly new years resolution.

I kept myself in check with creating my own happiness and even started to see that the universe had my back as well.

It was simply the laws of attraction working right before my eyes. Slowly but surely, items were being crossed of my bucket list and all of a sudden, I had an ‘aha!’ moment.

I forgot to mention that not only was 2018 about my happiness and a bucket list for a new age, but that most items on the list, I wanted to experience the same number as my age for the next decade. Another reason why I decided to stretch out the list for the entire decade.

I thought it would be a challenge to complete my list, but this little ole list is clearly no challenge for the universe to help me out and see it manifest.

Happiness is what I needed for both my soul and spirit, and as a human making it through life’s challenging moments.

The early months of marriage, happiness was slowly being sucked out me into a dark hole disguised as my spouse. Even adventure was being taken away from me. I wanted all that was taken, given back.

2018’s, new-age bucket list has brought back even more of my original spark from within than the years leading up.

It may take some time to get back what was lost, as it has for me, but don’t ever let that dark hole stop you from moving forward.   

As for my four page list, some items are not achievable without a hefty income. Here again, the human mind fears and questions of how we’ll reach these goals. But I’ve already told the universe what I want to do moving forward, by writing my bucket list, that it will see to it that all is accomplished.

Some of the smaller items on the list are easily being checked off one by one. It was just becoming fall when I had stumbled across affiliate marketing; again.

Have you ever had moments where you ask a question about how you’re going to move forward and an answer appears, but you ignore it? Well that happened to me.

It was several months later that affiliate marketing came back around as if to say: HERE I AM! I’M THE ANSWER YOU’VE BEEN SEEKING!

This time I listened to the nudge and jumped in. And was I taken for the surprise of a lifetime. Here was the answer and even then, more answers came once I decide to join to learn about affiliate marketing.

No doubt, I was hesistant about starting an online business because it was something I’d have to learn from the bottom up. But oddly enough, the excitement started to grow within me. I could just feel that this was the moment that was going to really change everything for me.

Expanding your abundance

Since we are currently in 2019, this year’s focus is on more financial abundance. I have the skills to power the will of inner happiness, so achieving this year’s resolution has a clear foundation to help create that goal, allowing me to be more focused and will be easier to achieve them.

One by one, the list is being marked off through the months. It’s only made me even more excited to see what the rest of 2019 will bring that couldn’t be fulfilled in 2018.

I can see some bucket list items coming closer and closer as I work on doing my part to manifest them into my reality with affiliate marketing.

I need to stay focused, see the path, and avoid the road blocks.

Don’t be afraid to make a list. As a matter of fact, unleash your creative mind and start a 2019 bucket list. Three months in is not too late.

Have fun and see your potential.

Until next time…